Almost Brothers Podcast
Whats up whats up whats up.. welcome to your new favorite podcast. Join your hosts Michael, Richard, and Tyler as we discuss God, church, life, and the journey through this crazy world. Get away from the stresses of life with this podcast. We will be hitting on various topics from sports, to life with Christ.
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Almost Brothers Podcast
Your Towel Isn’t Clean Just Because You Are
Ever notice how a tiny annoyance—like the wrong towel at 5 a.m. or a broken deodorant—can ignite a bigger storm? We start with lighthearted household gripes and follow the thread to something deeper: why apologies feel threatening, why some of us “sweep and move on,” and how a clear “I was wrong” can defuse a fight in seconds. It’s a candid, funny, and practical look at pride, tone, and the art of making repair easy instead of awkward.
We dig into the psychology behind saying sorry, from the myth that admission equals defeat to the real reason accountability builds trust. You’ll hear honest stories about getting called out on sarcasm, realizing mid-argument you’re wrong, and choosing to pivot right then instead of doubling down. We unpack the gap between intent and impact, why delays make apologies harder, and how to give feedback without making it a spectacle. Expect simple scripts that work, like “That’s my bad,” and strategies for keeping apologies from being weaponized.
Between the insights, we share life updates and small rituals that strengthen connection before conflict ever starts: carving out one-on-one time with kids, planning date nights with coin flips or rock-paper-scissors, leveling up in games just to laugh together, and setting boundaries around shared bathrooms and borrowed gear. The theme is consistent: safety first, ego second. When your people feel safe, everyone apologizes faster, forgives easier, and moves on lighter.
If you’re ready to swap defensiveness for real connection, hit play, then tell us: what’s the one apology line that actually works in your home? Subscribe, share with a friend who hates saying sorry, and leave a quick review so more listeners can find these conversations.
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Are you positive?
SPEAKER_02:I'd be positive.
SPEAKER_01:Um I hate when dryer sheets stick to your clothes.
SPEAKER_02:I saw a deal that said that dryer sheets are especially for towels, are really bad for them because they have a chemical on them that sticks to the towels that makes them less absorbent.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I don't like it. Not feeling it. Not feeling it at all. No, don't like it. And I also speaking of towels, I hate when you buy towels that are just terrible. Like they just spread the water. They don't soak it up or anything. They just spread it.
SPEAKER_02:That's the way those Black Friday towels are. You know, you can get them for a dollar because they're worth a dollar.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Yeah. And it just is spreading it from one place to another. It's not.
unknown:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:So you might as well air dry, you know?
SPEAKER_02:Nobody wants that. No, nobody wants that. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:You ever you ever uh like had like a mini, not a hand towel, but what are the next ones?
SPEAKER_02:Wash rag.
SPEAKER_01:No, it's like a three-quarter, I guess it would be like a almost like hand towel, I guess. Yeah, so wash rag, then like a hand towel, then a normal. Yeah. And that's all you had. Yeah. I've had that like everything else is dirty, and that's just kind of all you got.
SPEAKER_02:Gotta do what you gotta do.
SPEAKER_01:You know what I'm saying, man? You ever have to yell at Jennifer like help?
SPEAKER_02:Oh, yeah. Well, I'm so bad.
SPEAKER_01:I'm so bad at a towel. When I take a shower, I'm so bad at it. And I and I I have to apologize every single time. I'm like, babe, I'm sorry, because it's like, you know, five in the morning or whatever, and I'm like, I'm so sorry. No. No, I just forget to look and I just kind of just get to go in and don't think about it. And then by the time I'm I'm done, it's like, oh no.
SPEAKER_02:Well, we we we go through a lot of towels, as you can imagine. We got five kids, so by the time everybody's had a shower, right?
SPEAKER_01:It's okay. Do you do you absolutely not hang it up after you where this is going and absolutely done showering and you hang the towel back up, you go a couple uses. Nope, it's dirty. You go one and done. Is it dirty? You just got out of the shower.
SPEAKER_02:I don't care. Uh we've had no, we've had this conversation before.
SPEAKER_01:Shouldn't it be clean? You're just wiping off water.
SPEAKER_02:Look, I don't want anything that's been touching my stuff or somebody else's stuff to be touching me.
SPEAKER_01:To just go, okay.
SPEAKER_02:Because my kids will not respect my towel.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. So okay, that that was the next question. Do you have separate towels kind of? And okay.
SPEAKER_02:Well, now we've got a separate bathroom from the kids, which is yeah, phenomenal. Like it is beyond phenomenal. So now we now we've got a little more privacy. We can we have room for our stuff and stuff. Jennifer would go to take a shower and she'd have no shampoo because the girls had done used.
SPEAKER_01:Oh, that yeah, that drives me nuts too. Like, at least let me know when it's getting low or toothpaste. Let me know when you're three quarters of the way out. Hey, we're gonna need don't wait until it's empty.
SPEAKER_02:Yep. And I I use sensitive toothpaste, so I'm the only one that uses mine, but it drives me in.
SPEAKER_01:Well, now that Bubby's getting older, you know, he's he's using my stuff now, you know, whether it's shampoo or body wash or whatever. It's like, Bub, that's fine.
SPEAKER_02:You say he like broke one of your deodorants and just put the lid back on. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:So I get in there, I'm like, hey Bub, did you use my deodorant? Yeah. Did it break? Yeah. It'd have been good to know. That'd have been good. That'd have been real good to know. You know, besides 6 30 in the morning when I gotta get ready and go to work. Like that, that that would have been awesome.
SPEAKER_02:It's good information to have. Yesterday.
SPEAKER_01:Yep, yep, yep, yep. But yeah, yeah, I have to do it all the time. I gotta apologize to Jamie for forgetting to grab a towel before my shower or bath. Yep. Speaking of apologizing, why is it so hard? What's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, everybody. Welcome back to a brand new episode of the Almost Brothers Podcast. Why is it so hard to say I'm sorry or I was wrong?
SPEAKER_02:Isn't there a song about that? So hard to say I'm sorry or something.
SPEAKER_01:I don't know.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, no? Okay.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I don't know. Doesn't matter. But as y'all can hear, I got Richie Rich in here. Hey, hey. No tie tie today.
SPEAKER_02:No, let me give you one though. There you go.
SPEAKER_01:Oh, there you go. There you go. That's tie tie right there. Appreciate it. Yeah, why like why just don't so hard for us. And I'm gonna uh man, we're hitting something.
SPEAKER_02:I'm gonna I'm gonna hit this right off the bat. Women do not like to apologize.
SPEAKER_03:And uh oh.
SPEAKER_02:And that's just a stern. Oh man. Dern did he turn durn. We haven't had that one in a while.
SPEAKER_01:Oh man.
SPEAKER_02:But yeah, that's a true story. Which we all do. We I mean nobody wants to admit when they're wrong or when they've when they've messed up, but but it's part of being an adult. Like, I mean, even yeah. And I can I I expect it from children, even you know, even though you try to teach them different, but you're talking about adults that do this crap.
SPEAKER_01:Right. Well it's like it's like we're at we're at war and and apologizing or saying I was wrong is admitting defeat.
SPEAKER_02:Right. And it's like some type of weakness.
SPEAKER_01:Right. Yeah. And it's like, and and especially when because there's some there's some situations where there isn't really a right. Two people feel the type of way and they both feel that way, and there's not really a right answer. But it's like I'm talking about when there is a clear clearly you are wrong, right, and you just don't want to admit it. And what happens is we end up we end up sweeping it under the rug instead of going, hey, yeah, I was wrong on that.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. Jennifer, that's one of our biggest uh our biggest arguments is she's a she's a sweeper.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Swiffer sweeper, okay.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, she uh she's she's non-confrontational. Yeah. So she likes to, when we get into it, she won't say I'm sorry. The way she says I'm sorry is she just stops talking about it. Just move on. Yeah, yeah. And that's not the same thing.
SPEAKER_01:Hit you with the whatever for the record.
SPEAKER_02:That is not the same thing.
SPEAKER_01:That is not an apology or an admittance of being wrong. And it's like it and it's okay to say, yeah, I was probably wrong on that one.
SPEAKER_02:Right. And I'm fine with even moving on after that. Like, right. Hey, that's my bad. Let's move on. Absolutely.
SPEAKER_01:Cool. Yeah, awesome.
SPEAKER_02:Yep.
SPEAKER_01:And then why do why do some people, as if you admit that, they they now then blow that up into this huge thing. And it's like, yeah, I was wrong. It's like, oh my gosh, y'all hear this? Oh my god. And it's like, well, I'm never doing that again. Okay. Well, you just proved why I don't do that. Right. And it's like, how much better would things be if people did that? Just said, hey, you know what? I was I was off on that one. Yeah. It's my bad. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:And I've not that I'm some self-aware guru or anything, but I'm I'm pretty quick to say if I've if I mess up, I've I will own it.
SPEAKER_01:I mean, it's yeah, it's just I I love like when when somebody, because we talk about this with you, like we'll have a conversation and you'll you'll forget what the conversation is about, but Jamie does this. So she was like, Oh, you didn't tell me that. I'm like, Yeah, I did. She's like, No, you didn't. And then I I start the I I'll talk about the whole conversation we had, and she goes, Oh yeah, I remember now.
SPEAKER_02:Gotta jog the memory.
SPEAKER_01:Oh yeah, yeah. No, I got it. Oopsie. Yeah. And it's like, yeah, I yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, I'm pretty sure that's not what happens with us. I'm pretty sure you do make stuff up when you're gonna do it. Oh, okay.
SPEAKER_01:Right, right, right. Right, right, right. Hey, I'm sorry. That's my bad. That's my bad. Well, I feel like I feel like it when when I have somebody that can do that to me and I can do that to them in a respectful way and go, yeah, I was I was off on that. I feel like we're stronger and closer because of that.
SPEAKER_02:100%. And it's it's it's because it's the vulnerability that you're showing amongst yourselves. You know, it's like, hey, I know that you're not going to just use this against me, so it's okay to admit. And that's what I want in my marriage or in any of my relationships. I want to be in a position for with my friends and my wife and my kids that that we can we can admit our faults and not feel threatened by that.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. And it for me, like it, especially in my relationship with Jamie, for me, anytime she has apologized or said, Hey, I was wrong, or hey, I'm sorry for this or that or whatever, it instantly stops the argument. Right for me. Instantly. Just like, okay, cool. Yeah. I'm glad we okay, let's move on. I mean, in like absolutely at that moment, the being mad, being upset, being angry, the argument is over. Right. Because it's like, okay, cool, you take accountability, I'll take accountability for my part, because everybody has a part in it.
SPEAKER_00:Sure.
SPEAKER_01:You know, so nobody is a hundred percent right, but it's like, okay, cool, let's move on.
SPEAKER_02:Right.
SPEAKER_01:I mean, instantly.
SPEAKER_02:That's why there's always two sides to every story, you know. Right. And that kills me when somebody's like, I can't believe they did this and this and this and this and this. And it's like, what's the rest of it? Yeah. What what's the point? Oh, yeah. Did you talk to them about it? No. Yeah. No. You can't have an actual conversation with somebody. That's crazy.
SPEAKER_01:Well, maybe that didn't happen like that. Yeah. Yeah. And it it's just, it's, you know, the I guess the older I'm I'm getting. I mean, Jamie talked about this. The older I'm getting, the more I'm I'm trying. You're almost 40 now, right? I am. Thank you for appreciate that. And you're muted. I I'm I'm trying to become more self-aware.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:And trying to grow and change things about myself that even I don't like. So I know people don't like it, but I don't even like about myself. I'll do something or say something a type of way. And like, I don't like how that came off even for me. And I can't imagine how they took it. So I'm trying to change the way I do that. Because sometimes the way I say things isn't the best.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Like the information is what I want to get across, but the way I say it is kind of like, yeah, I could have probably worded that different. So I'm I've been trying to work on that with myself. And even in our leadership meeting, I'm going to be talking about that a little bit.
SPEAKER_02:And my problem is I am sarcastic by nature. So, you know, we've talked about this that I come off.
SPEAKER_01:Ladies and gentlemen, you heard it here first. I'm glad the crowd loves it. Oh, sorry. I'm sorry. Uh that's messed up.
SPEAKER_02:I'm glad the mature portion of the podcast has begun.
SPEAKER_01:My bad, my bad.
SPEAKER_02:So I have to be very careful and aware of that. And when I when I interact with people, especially people that don't know me, because I have been told on a few occasions that I can come off a little harsh. Yeah. It's just it's I don't, you know, people that know me know that I don't mean anything by it, but people that don't obviously don't have that information.
SPEAKER_01:And if you spend two days with you and you go, oh, okay. Yeah, no, I I I know his heart, and you know, it's but yeah, it's it for people on the outside, like what? Like, hold up a second. And it and it comes from a place of because especially if you get all of us guys together, you would think like y'all can't stand each other. But it really does, it comes from a playful place. It really does, you know. So I think I think people people are already on edge, ready, ready to be offended anyway. Yeah. So that makes it worse because they're just waiting on that's why I don't, or I can't believe they they're just waiting to be outraged for anything that they can they can be. So anybody who jokes like that, sarcastic or or kind of blunt, you know, but still joking, can just come off to those people very because that's what they're looking for.
SPEAKER_02:Just ready to be offended.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, because that's what they're looking for. So oh man, it's like I obviously I didn't, and that that's frustrating too when it when you you do it as an obvious joke, right? And then they take it and then like run with it, and it's like I was clearly joking, apparently not clearly, but I was trying, it was I was joking. Right. I was joking.
SPEAKER_02:And it's it's very frustrating to to know that about yourself and not not always be aware of it.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Because when somebody brings something up to you and it's like, hey man, that that kind of bothered me when you said this, this, and this, and I legitimately don't know what they're talking about. Like I don't I don't have recollection of it because it wasn't it wasn't that big a deal to me. Right. So it's hard for me to remember what what they're even talking about.
SPEAKER_01:And I think that's part of it too, is is people won't say anything anywhere close to when it happens, they'll hold on to it for six months and go, hey, that thing you said six months ago, and it's like, I dude, I'm sorry, but I I really don't remember. Yep. You know, instead of you know, two days later going, hey man, can we talk? You know, a couple days ago, it's a whole lot easier to go, oh yeah, okay. Right. I was joking, or or that came across, I was having a bad day, whatever it may be. But we it's just because you are, you are very, you don't want anyone to dislike you or feel bad. Right. So there's a lot of time you'll apologize just just to go, hey, I'm sorry that you felt that way and you didn't mean anything by it, and nobody around outside of that one person, everybody else is going, yeah, I didn't think that was a big deal.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:You know, so you are a person that will say, Hey, I'm I'm sorry, you know, I'm sorry that made you feel that way.
SPEAKER_02:And you have to be, I mean, especially in this day and age, because like you said, everybody's looking to be offended. So Oh man. And and and knowing that about myself, I know whether I'm that it's very easy for people to take me wrong. So I'm very quick to apologize when people do.
SPEAKER_01:So Yeah. Yeah, and it's tough, man. Especially it seems like it's harder the closer the people are to you. It's harder to to say I'm sorry, to say that's my fault, to admit, you know, you you did something or said something or or believed something that was wrong, the closer they are to you. You know, you almost feel like an entitlement to not have to do that. Well, you're close, you should know better. It's like, no, that's it.
SPEAKER_02:Well, and that's and that's you know, people like you, for example, if if I say something off color or whatever to you, you know that it's me. Right. And and and you take it in that in that way. You know, if you say that to somebody that that you think quote unquote should know better, should know you and and understand, but if it's if it hurts, it hurts. It doesn't matter what you think about if they should understand or not.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:What you think about the hurt is irrelevant. Yeah. The hurt is there.
SPEAKER_01:Right. Yeah, they feel the way they they feel, and because we don't hear, I think a lot of times our tone. Oh, yeah. Or how it comes across.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Because we're we're doing it through a lens of this is how I mean it, right? Not how it sounds. Right.
SPEAKER_02:You know, so and you have the same problem just with your volume.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I got a big mouth. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:I wasn't gonna say that. I just you have a very loud tone. Yeah, you know, and and people think you're yelling when you're not. You're just you just talk loud. Yeah, and your whole family's that away that I've been around.
SPEAKER_01:So yes, yes, we are.
SPEAKER_02:Probably why you're all that away, because you have to do it to get a word in it.
SPEAKER_01:Yes, yes, yeah. Like in that northeast, you do it with my dad's family. You gotta be loud to to add a story in, because boy, it gets crazy.
SPEAKER_02:But yeah, it's uh it's something to really pay attention to, and that's that's something that I would like to get better at, is is just which I asked you to do that for me, you know, kind of when you're around me, just like, hey, that that that's a little that's a little harsh.
SPEAKER_01:A little much, man. Back her down just a little bit. And it is, and and it's even hard to bring that up to somebody that you love. Like, hey, the way you said that, I know you don't mean it like that, but that just came off pretty bad. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, it's tough. I remember but you've done it for me before, so yeah, and I've had I've had to do that with myself. It was it was with uh my sister and this was 10 years ago. And what I said was what I meant.
SPEAKER_02:Right.
SPEAKER_01:But I could have said it a different way, and I could have done it differently because it was in front of the kids. It was just bad timing, bad tone. But it was the right it was the right thing. Again, it's the right thing to say, because I when I went and apologized, I said I meant exactly what I said, but I should not have said it the way I did. I should, I should have done it differently. I shouldn't have done it in front of the kids, I should have told you how I feel in a different way, you know. So just kind of learning and growing and trying to do better at that. Because like you said, I or I'm I'm I get passionate about something, and that passion gets taken for anger. Yeah. It's like, no, I'm not angry, I'm just passionate about the things that I care about.
SPEAKER_02:Well, and that's that's something I've noticed about you is when you get it in your head that you're right about something, yeah, it's too much tooth and nail. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:I mean, yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. And it can be something that that maybe you're not as right as you think you are. Yeah. But it's hard, it's hard to let it go, man. It really is, especially when you have convinced yourself that you're right about something. Yeah. And I sometimes I will, in the middle of an argument, realize I'm wrong.
SPEAKER_01:It's like it's like now which way are we gonna go?
SPEAKER_00:Golly, how do I handle it?
SPEAKER_01:How do I get out of this? Yeah. Yeah. And it's sad that we have to feel that way. And it's like, and most because most of the time it's about stuff that's right, just it doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things, anyway. Like, you know, I have buddies that will argue about sports all day, and both of us have dug our feet in, and then at a certain point, it's like this really doesn't matter anyway. We're just kind of you know arguing just for the sake of arguing, but well, it's like arguing over the best movie, best music.
SPEAKER_02:Right. There's no definitive answer.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. It's like there's you know, there's no like award for this one thing that proves it to everyone. Yeah, yeah. But well, and the same, you know, I'll I'll argue Apple over Android.
SPEAKER_02:Oh, I know, yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Let us know in the comments on social media, Apple or Android.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, but I'll argue to the to the death. I will not to the death, but I will certainly, I am definitely Apple, just and I've been on both sides of it. I had an Android for years, and I switched to Apple, and it's just that's for me, it's Apple.
SPEAKER_01:Not sponsored by Apple, but Tim Cook, give me a call. Come on, man. Call your brother. What have we done? So we're gonna transition, man, to what's been going on in your life? That's what's up.
SPEAKER_02:Before we do that, okay. So I told a story last time about Amy Mills.
SPEAKER_00:Uh-oh. Okay. Uh-oh. And she told me. Oh man. Oh man. Go ahead. She told me I'm scared. She told me this is about apologizing.
SPEAKER_02:It's not. She told me not to be telling stories about her on this podcast. I'm gonna tell another one.
SPEAKER_00:Oh man.
SPEAKER_02:So last week she gets up on Tuesday night because she works night shift. Yeah. Freaking out because of the time, gets fully dressed and comes to church.
SPEAKER_01:Is this not? Well I know I've heard this story. Is this not the story you told last time?
SPEAKER_02:She was late because she was just reading and that's right. That's right. That's right. This time she came to church when it wasn't a church day.
SPEAKER_01:So so now so you missed it because you're reading. Then you came here on an off day when it wasn't time. Eventually it'll line up. Just you've got seven shots at it. Seven days in the week. Eventually she's gonna hit that bullseye. Yeah, she'll hit that bullseye eventually. I love the Millses. Oh man, that's yeah, that's great. Yeah, that's good stuff.
SPEAKER_02:Uh that's what's up. So I got the sixth book of my Cyber Dream series that I'm currently working on. Yeah. Really good series. Um I'm I'm very leery about how they're gonna wrap it up. We'll see. And that's the way it is with any series.
SPEAKER_01:You just did all the time.
SPEAKER_02:Right, right. Because you're talking about ten hours a book. Yeah. So I mean that's a lot, a lot of time invested. But uh I've been watching a lot of Inkmaster. A lot of Inkmaster. Yeah. Uh my our show, The Traders, came back on. So we're five episodes deep into that. That's a pretty cool show. A lot worse language this this season for some reason. I don't know. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Seems like a lot of stuff is getting like that.
SPEAKER_02:It is, it really, really is. And it's so this is something I noticed, and it's the the dumbest thing. They will bleep out every cuss word except for GD.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_02:I'm like, yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Really?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:That's uh it feels intentional.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, it really does, yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Um that's about it. I mean, that's pretty much what I got going on. We had uh dog had two new new puppies today. So we got uh five new puppies. Hit me up six weeks, they'll be ready to go.
SPEAKER_01:How about I not hit you up in six weeks? So one of our we got to sit down last weekend, me and Jamie went on a date night and we just kind of got to sit around a table and talk about like our what we'd like to do or see both individually as a couple and as a family in 2026. Yeah. So uh one of those was to read more. So I'm I'm I'm on a couple leadership books. Cool.
SPEAKER_02:Um did you ever set your audible up?
SPEAKER_01:So I start no, not yet. No, I'm I'm gonna do that here here pretty soon because yeah, because I do a lot more listening to podcasts than getting to sit and read, you know, so I spend a lot more time whether I'm I'm counseling or going to meetings or whatever, I'm on the road a lot. Yeah, you know, so listening to those would help me.
SPEAKER_00:Sure.
SPEAKER_01:So yeah, I'm I'm definitely gonna be hitting the Audible up. Um trying to take more time off, which isn't working. I was working this Saturday, I'll be working tomorrow on my days off, but um so I've been trying to trying to really play the video game. We are going to a movie Friday night, so you know I get to get to spend a little time doing that.
SPEAKER_02:Um what are you gonna see Friday night?
SPEAKER_01:You're going to.
SPEAKER_02:Oh. You got tickets. Lord of the Rings.
SPEAKER_01:Lord of the Rings is re-releasing in theaters.
SPEAKER_02:I am stupid excited. Yeah, it's gonna be good, man. Because I didn't get to see it in theaters when it came out. Right.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Yep. Well, we didn't have the money, you know. I was that age, yeah, you know, when it was coming out, we just didn't have the money for movie tickets back then, so I had to wait on it to come on DVD, scrunch three dollars together and go get one at a time. But um, so I'm I'm trying to do more reading, I'm trying to do more leadership stuff, just learn, grow, um, spend more time with the kids, spend more time with Jamie.
unknown:Cool.
SPEAKER_01:So yeah, it's got to be that's good goals. I think Aaliyah's gonna try to meet us. You know, we're going to Branson in March, so I think she's gonna try to meet us um for a couple of those days. So yeah, so just really trying to stick to just having a better year altogether. 2025 was so busy that a lot of key important moments kind of got glanced over because of the hustle and bustle. So trying to slow down a little bit this year and refocus.
SPEAKER_02:That's my thing. I I I really want to do better at being intentional about the time we spend together, not not just seeing what comes, but the l really planning some stuff. Yeah. You know, because on on a Saturday we don't have anything going on. We almost don't want to do anything. Right. Because we don't have anything going on. Yeah. So we we have so few of those that that we fall into that trap of just sitting and watching TV all day and stay home. Right. Yeah. So I want to do better at just planning some stuff with the kids.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Yeah, we took sissy. When was it? I think it was Friday night. Yeah, it was Friday night. So Zeke, Zeke spent the night at a friend's house. So we took Sissy, because we definitely don't get a lot of these, just me, Jamie, and one of the kids at a time. So we took her to Target and just kind of walked around and hung out and and went out to eat.
SPEAKER_02:Did you get her Starbucks?
SPEAKER_01:They were closed. She was upset. Yeah, they were closed. Yeah, because it was it was probably 7 30, 8 o'clock by the time we got there. Yeah. Because we had to drop Zeke's stuff off with him so he could spend night at Friends. So she didn't get Starbies, but she got to hang out, went to Target, and then what did we eat? We we ate Mexican. And it was just awesome just getting to focus on her for a little bit. Yeah. You know, so because Saturday was busy. Basketball all day.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, we had basketball Saturday too.
SPEAKER_01:Basketball, and then I was up here at the church just doing stuff, trying to get ahead on some stuff. So um it was a long, it was it's been a long week. Yeah. Busy. Yeah. But yeah, definitely trying to refocus on that. More video games, you know, because I went from playing too much to not playing at all. You know, and that's my my time to shut my brain off. So I've been doing really good with that. Just I'm excited. So there's a I think I talked about this before. There's a Lego Batman game coming out. Yeah. And I got it pre-ordered, and it's it's gonna be awesome. I'm really excited for that. So yeah, good to do that.
SPEAKER_02:Lego stuff, man. It and it's it's I think we might have talked about this already, but they're so clever. Yeah. The Lego movies and the games, I mean, they are so they're just funny. Yep.
SPEAKER_01:Like they are just the movies are fantastic. Man, they are so good.
SPEAKER_02:And they make fun of themselves, and it's it's great.
SPEAKER_01:And I like how the games, especially, they stick to the source material, even though they're Lego form. So I've got the I've got Lego Star Wars, and it's got all seven episodes in this game, and it's really cool. It's really, really cool. Yep, so just been doing that, man. And Jamie likes to play Dr. Mario, so we've been doing a lot, a lot more of that.
SPEAKER_02:I don't know why she likes it. She gets mad every time she plays it.
SPEAKER_01:I have to go up a level. So we'll play on the same level, same speed, and then after a while, you need to go up, so I'll go up a level, and then she'll start beating me. Yeah, but it's fun. I don't I've I'll go up a hundred levels just to be able to laugh and have that time together. We watched I think it was a new what did we watch? We almost watched Gladiator.
SPEAKER_02:The second one or the first one?
SPEAKER_01:Uh the first one. I've got it saved. I I love when you can when you go on one of these apps and they have a whole bunch of new movies, right? You know, that they've added it. It could be old movies but new to this app. And I'm just like, oh, they got Gladiator, and they had one that just came out in in theaters and it just released on the app. So uh we we've been trying to do like one or two movies a week just together, just getting to watch it.
SPEAKER_02:I saw a movie that I wanted to watch the other day. It was a dang. Yeah, it's not there. But it it just it just came, it was just in theaters and that's what genre. Yeah, I have no idea. I literally have no idea.
SPEAKER_01:No, no, don't even know what kind of movie it is.
SPEAKER_02:No, nothing nothing. It was just I remember seeing it and thinking, man, I want to see that.
SPEAKER_01:There were all right. There's a romantic, there's like a romantic one that just that just came out out of theaters. Forgetting you uh is the name of it. It looks really good. So there's that one, so that one dropped on Paramount. That's one that we're gonna watch.
SPEAKER_02:I kind of want to see that one with uh Channing Tatum Roof Man. Yes, based on a true story. I kind of want to see that.
SPEAKER_01:I'm the same way, and I don't like Channing Tatum, and it looks really good.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Uh him and Kirsten Dunst.
SPEAKER_02:Yep.
SPEAKER_01:Um yeah, that's one that, yeah, that came out on Paramount also. Yeah. It's on there, yep. Yep, that was one of the new ones that came out. Um what did we start what? We started watching Blades of Glory this afternoon. So in between church, yeah, we started watching Blades of Glory. Man, it's so funny. I haven't seen that in a long time. Oh my gosh. He's running on the treadmill like eating a biscuit. So throw me some chicken. It's so funny. It's a classic, man.
SPEAKER_02:Classic.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, but but doing more of that, more of that spending time together. Because sometimes, you know, in between service, I'll be on my phone, she'll be on her phone, and we're just kind of chilling. Then like I take a nap and head to the church. But just trying to go, hey, let's spend some time together. What? Even though we only have a little bit.
SPEAKER_02:Our problem, because we have so many kids, is having something that interests everybody. Yeah. You know, some of them like game nights, some of them like movie nights. Some of them, you know, it's just it's hard to find one thing we can do that everybody likes.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Yep. Do a get a wheel, like one of those wheels. Yeah. And then every week one of them gets to spin. Whatever it lands on is what we're doing. I like, I like, which me and Jamie is going to do this soon, where you do the paper rock, scissors. So you're doing date night, and you do, okay, what movie? Yeah. So either I pick or you pick. Paper rock, scissors, the winner gets to pick, then the snack, then the dinner, then, you know, every aspect of the night is kind of like that. Looks pretty cool.
SPEAKER_02:I have a coin that I got for something one time, and one says wife's choice, then the other side says uh husband's choice. Yep. There you go. So you just flip the coin and figure out what's going on. There you go.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. So you just get the categories, you know, movie, snack, dinner, um, you know, whatever you want to do, and then and then you yeah, you just do that, so then you never know, and it changes every time.
SPEAKER_02:And I like it. Yep. There's a lot of cool date night ideas on online.
SPEAKER_01:She's getting time. That's a big thing, which we'll we'll do it. We'll tell the kids, hey, me and mommy are are hanging out, watching a movie. Y'all go to your rooms, hang out. They know what hanging out means. Oh gosh, yeah. Yeah. Which Sissy's been taking taking up a lot of that time because she's going through the Harry Potter series for the first time. Yeah. So we are on, we we watched last night, we watched Half-Blood Prince.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Last night. So she's two two movies from from the end, yeah.
SPEAKER_02:So how did she handle Dumbledore?
SPEAKER_01:She didn't like it. She didn't like it very much at all.
SPEAKER_02:She said, that's so sad. That's the way Emily was too.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, it was it was rough. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Those are fantastic movies. Yeah. They really are.
SPEAKER_01:Yep. So I'm excited. We'll probably watch another one tonight, I figure. Yeah. So we'll probably be finishing up in the next few days.
SPEAKER_02:Very cool.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, man. Well, I love you, bro.
SPEAKER_02:Love you back.
SPEAKER_01:What else you got? That's it. Just make sure you stay away from those stupid dryer sheets.
