Almost Brothers Podcast
Whats up whats up whats up.. welcome to your new favorite podcast. Join your hosts Michael, Richard, and Tyler as we discuss God, church, life, and the journey through this crazy world. Get away from the stresses of life with this podcast. We will be hitting on various topics from sports, to life with Christ.
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Almost Brothers Podcast
Friends Beyond Family: The Challenge of Adult Relationships
Maintaining meaningful adult friendships seems deceptively simple, yet proves extraordinarily challenging in practice. Why do connections that once came so naturally now require military-grade planning? This candid conversation explores the very real struggle of nurturing friendships amidst careers, family obligations, and ever-multiplying responsibilities.
Remember when friendship meant simply riding your bike to a buddy's house without checking three different calendars first? Those days feel increasingly distant as we navigate the complex landscape of adult relationships. Despite living geographically close, the podcast hosts reveal their own difficulties in finding time for simple hangouts beyond scheduled recordings and family gatherings. "I cannot remember the last time that we just hung out," becomes a poignant refrain throughout the episode.
The discussion takes an especially insightful turn when addressing what they've dubbed the "couple cult" – the tendency for romantic relationships to become all-consuming at the expense of outside friendships. As they note, "It's not healthy to just have that relationship," highlighting how vital diverse connections are to maintaining balance in life. Even the most loving marriages benefit when individuals maintain separate friendships and interests outside the relationship.
Finding solutions begins with recognition and intention. The conversation moves from acknowledging the friendship drought to brainstorming realistic activities that busy adults can actually incorporate – from pickleball games to movie nights. The key isn't necessarily having abundant free time but making deliberate choices about how we spend the limited time we do have.
What friendship challenges are you facing as an adult? Share your experiences and solutions with us, and don't forget to subscribe to join our continuing conversation about navigating life's complex relationships.
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Speaker 2:I'm here for it. He's on it today. I'm feeling oosy, he's feeling oosy today.
Speaker 1:I don't know what that means.
Speaker 3:All right, Grandpa.
Speaker 1:That's right.
Speaker 3:I did get a hold of a band to see if we could use their music.
Speaker 1:That's why I was about to ask Did you hear back from them?
Speaker 2:What'd they say?
Speaker 1:You were ghosted by the band.
Speaker 3:Like ghosted, like just nothing. So you know what? We don't want to play your stupid music.
Speaker 1:I didn't mean that I really do. It's really good.
Speaker 3:It's really good, really good. What's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up? Everybody, welcome back to a brand new episode of the Almost Brothers podcast. Here with me, as always, ty, ty, how's it going?
Speaker 2:What's the level of ooze On a scale of one to ten, probably seven.
Speaker 3:That's not bad. Six and a half, you're C territory. Yeah, hey, always.
Speaker 2:C's get degrees.
Speaker 1:As is evidenced by him having a degree.
Speaker 3:Listen, I graduated with.
Speaker 2:You have to have a B in teaching, don't you? In degree-specific classes. Yeah, I graduated with a 2.98 GPA. Boom, I wouldn't put that out there, that's.98.
Speaker 1:GPA Boom, I wouldn't put that out there. That's not fair Okay.
Speaker 2:Hey, you know what? I ended my first semester with a 1.7. It only went up from there.
Speaker 1:Improvement, I guess.
Speaker 3:So Richie Rich, how are you doing?
Speaker 1:I'm doing fantastic.
Speaker 3:What's your level of ooze? I don't know what that is, okay.
Speaker 1:Cannot say because I don't know what that is okay, cannot say because I don't know what that means.
Speaker 3:Good to have y'all on here. Love y'all so much. We are excited for today's episode. Today's episode we're going to be talking about how to have adult relationships uh pass, I don't want to no, no adult relationships or like pass, like I don't I'm now, I'm not feeling goosey.
Speaker 1:I found it very challenging yeah, and it depends on the adult. You know that you try to have that with yeah but yeah, it's uh like just just finding time.
Speaker 3:Like y'all, two are my closest friends. And even just that's, I know, right, like I've got it, man, we've got to do better. No, and it man just having time, like we don't even spend the time together. That I want us three? Right, you know, and we do. We live close together but in three different towns? Right, you know, but it's like man, it's hard to find that time and that balance.
Speaker 1:When's the last time us?
Speaker 3:three just said hey, let's go hang out. We went to Memphis. So me and Tyler and Zeke went to Memphis, and then I mean, other than that we just kind of here and there, and it's so difficult, man, and generally excuse me, oh man, yeah, I mean other than that really.
Speaker 1:you know, we just kind of here and there, but man it's so difficult man and generally, excuse me, oh man, yeah, I know, Generally if we hang out it's with our whole family. Yeah, you know. But just us guys, never, never, ever, ever.
Speaker 2:We try to play poker and kind of hang out. But even that's been a while, I know it's for us, you know with our other friends too. It's the same with everyone.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Like you and our church friends the last time we hung out with like Patty, like outside of church, shout out to.
Speaker 3:Patty, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, as we would say, okay that was like a month ago or so yeah I always see each other.
Speaker 2:You know church, but outside that's been a while.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it's been a while oh gosh and you know even my sisters.
Speaker 3:You know like I cannot remember the last time that we just hung out, like Like I bought them a DVD set of a movie that we love. We love this series and we plan on watching it together. But it's just hard to even find time. You know, I went and got to hang out with my dad last week, got to see him a little bit, but I only get that, you know, once or twice a month, you know once, twice, three times, and he lives pretty close. It's just finding the time to do it.
Speaker 1:Man, that's I. I am really bad about complaining about my kids not coming to see me, but then I go two months without going to see my mom, so which I talk to her every other day.
Speaker 2:But there's just something about that physical visit that, yeah, it's a struggle, man, it's just tough as adults with children and work I mean work on average takes up 40 hours of your week.
Speaker 2:If you're not at work, you're at home and you got kids and then they got stuff and then for us we're at church the other half of the week and they got stuff and then for us we're at church the other half of the week and you know it's it's it's one of those like not prior prioritizing you know certain things, because those are important things. Just it's kind of you know people say if, if they want to make time, don't make time. It's kind of like yeah, it's. It's far and few between. Do we have those moments that we can Right?
Speaker 1:Yeah, and making time. While it sounds easy, it's not always easy.
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 1:You know you got kids and jobs and church and I mean it's just a lot.
Speaker 2:Yeah, To the point where it's like, okay, one of those things I'm going to have to dial back one week.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, because it's all those things the church, the work, the kids, the extracurriculars that the kids are doing those are like half two priorities, and then the rest of it is trying to squeeze it in where you can. Me and Andrew have been trying to get together our families for dinner for two weeks now, and we were going to last night but he had something come up that he had to be at. So it's just like man, this is so, is it? I mean, we're looking at our calendar, just yeah, okay, let's see. No, can't do it. Then what about this day? No, you're doing, okay, cool. Okay, you can't do it. And it's like man, we, it's hard, it's tough out here. Man, remember the good old days where you just came home and worried about finishing your homework and that was it oh my gosh.
Speaker 3:That was your responsibility.
Speaker 2:Ride your bike to your friend's house. I miss having no responsibilities.
Speaker 3:Like man and it is something where you kind of have to like.
Speaker 3:you know, when we do family dinners with our three families and the Feast family, we have to plan, you know, three weeks ahead and say hey, this you know, this night we're going to have family dinner, you know so that everybody kind of leaves that day open and clears it out. But man, it is just, it's tough and it's so important to have those relationships outside of just your marriage. Like I love Jamie more than any other human being on the planet. We know, you know, outside of my blood relatives, you know, of course, but she is just, but still even there's days where I'm like get away from me, I'm not that I didn't, I did not say that I did not say that.
Speaker 3:No, richard, you heard it I'm not cosigning.
Speaker 3:I know, jamie, she will hurt me but there are so many days where I'm just like, man, I want to go hang out with the guys. I I want to see you know, get out. I went Monday to go watch a movie. Man, it's awesome. That's why I tell her, like, this is me time. She called me, she FaceTimed me. I was sitting at I can't remember the restaurant, it was a Mexican restaurant, yeah, and I was sitting there just by myself eating and, man, you got a hot date. Huh, see what she did there.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's hilarious.
Speaker 3:Hot date and I was just like, oh, this is kind of nice just getting time to myself.
Speaker 1:Get to go watch a movie. I'm weird. I hate eating by myself, Like it's just the worst.
Speaker 3:Yeah, bad company.
Speaker 1:No what. No company, I'm just sitting there like I'm looking at my phone and I feel other people judging me for being by myself. I start hearing that all by myself song it's gonna be really boring.
Speaker 3:Man, do you want a magazine or something? I do, I do, but yeah it. It's nice to to prioritize yourself and your friends outside of again, outside of your marriage, your kids.
Speaker 1:You know that stuff and I mean that kind of thing is important. You know, as much as you love your family, you've got to get a break.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And it's so healthy for a relationship to not just have that relationship. When Tristan was dating Allison, we told him and told him, and told him, and told him, and told him Dude, y'all spend too much time together, it is not healthy. And they imploded, they didn't make it. That couple cult.
Speaker 3:Was that the explosion sound? Sounds like a fart, like we're not getting back into that again. Sorry, sorry sorry, um, yeah, and it's that. It's that couple, couple cult that's what we call them is. Is the two people that? It's just them two. It's never any and it's just. It's not healthy, right, it's just not it. You need to have other relationships outside of that. You need to have friends and you need to have hobbies and and things like that, you know.
Speaker 3:So I've just got my playstation back and it's nice to just sit down and and play. Play video games yeah you know, and just kind of spend time with, with it's me and my playstation. That's that relationship we have, that that give and take. You know what I'm saying. It takes my money, it gives me enjoyment.
Speaker 1:You know, I have not played my xbox in probably two months oh man I just don't have time. Well, I mean, I have time, but I don't make time.
Speaker 3:Right, sit around, play it but yeah, it was just nice to to sit watch the final destination yeah, and it was good, it was good it was. Yeah, it was a good dumb, you know. You know what to expect, got a whole new list of fears, so thanks thanks for that.
Speaker 1:Did people die? Yeah, a couple, couple of them. Every time I see a log truck on the road, I send a picture to you or jamie?
Speaker 2:oh, it just every, every time and I get in the other lane, let me let me just get a couple lanes start driving in the opposite lane.
Speaker 3:Be like I'm just playing it safe. Y'all move over, y'all ain't getting me not up in here driving through the median.
Speaker 1:I'm out of here.
Speaker 3:Man on the show telling you man, yeah, or tanning, tanning salon, think about it. Then no, yeah, um, but like what? What are some, what are some ways or some some things that y'all would like to do, as us three, as the guys In the bromance, in the bromance. We'll add Jim into that too. Some things that we can do so that we can make plans to spend time together and kind of Pickleball. I love it.
Speaker 1:Why are you?
Speaker 2:making that noise. He's on to something. I'm fine with that.
Speaker 3:I like it.
Speaker 1:But we have to find somewhere where we can play indoors. That's true too Outside pickleball is not where it's at Picket.
Speaker 3:Community Center. We'll have to get a net.
Speaker 2:I was going to say get a net for here yeah.
Speaker 1:We're getting the carpet up, but I love pickleball and it's a great time. It's a great exercise. I love it.
Speaker 3:I like it Ty time. It's great exercise. I love it. I like it ty. What do you think, deep in thought? This could take a minute yeah, this is tyler's brain talking.
Speaker 2:I'm trying to process the question why does my brain sound like a black man? I?
Speaker 1:don't know. That's messed up. Why is shaft in your head? Why am I talking like?
Speaker 3:that? What was I going to say? Crap.
Speaker 2:Oh, we need to all go to a cage fighting or kickboxing, that'd be good too.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I like that they have them in Cape a lot.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they do.
Speaker 3:I'm down with that. I like it. The cage of honor is the yeah what was the one we've seen when we went to Comic-Con. I think that was that.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I like that. Go to some wrestling. Yeah, even though Richard could probably no. Yeah.
Speaker 1:I like watching amateur wrestling. I think it's fun.
Speaker 2:Go do that, yeah, like collegiate wrestling, but you know what I mean. Yeah, we got a couple guys here that that, yeah, like wrestling, yeah, but yeah, they have it here every once in a while. Rector, I like it. Yeah, cape does it too. I remember I took live to her first one. It was just so funny watching her like cringe every time someone got hit with a chair, yeah, go are you okay?
Speaker 1:last year says last year.
Speaker 2:So they had a midget wrestling and campbell ah, I saw that excuse me, little people wrestling I guess I saw that, but yeah, that'd be fun to go. That'd be a trip.
Speaker 1:I actually follow a uh wrestling organization that has little people is it that micro wrestling or whatever? So about your uh finding other friends I'm just so I don't.
Speaker 2:I don't want to hang out with you for those listening, michael's now taking a new co-host applications yes, I don't, I don't, y'all okay you know, what you know, what you know what we came here?
Speaker 3:to record an episode not to be judged that's right shush we listen and we don't judge we listen, shut up we need to do that we listen and we don't judge and just go around and tell some of our deepest, darkest secrets.
Speaker 1:That's a good idea. I don't know, I think that sounds great. I'm sure we should do that.
Speaker 3:Next episode oh man, next yeah, but man going back to anything but what y'all just talked about, y'all okay. Yeah, it's just us yeah, I really want to start prioritizing in a way, y'all also yeah spend some time with y'all, because we're talking about watching movies right, we ain't done that in a long time yeah, there's a list of movies and we talk about all.
Speaker 1:You know we talk about movies constantly, but you know it'll be a movie that I've seen that you have in, or vice versa, and you're like man, we need to make time to watch it together. Yeah, my favorite movie of all time. You got me on vhs came over and watched it.
Speaker 3:Still haven't opened it yeah, good, good, yeah, you had me watch it before I got it for you. Oh, that's a different. You know we get mr holland's opus. Yeah, I'm talking about breaking the rules, okay but mr holland's opus is right up there, it is really good breaking the rules is on vhs.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I haven't.
Speaker 3:I haven't opened that yet, yep, and I mean I know it's hard for y'all with the pregnancy and doctor's visits and all of that jazz yeah, yeah, we're prioritize us, tyler okay, I don't care.
Speaker 1:Acknowledge us acknowledge us.
Speaker 3:Tyler, I'm so sick of you just ignoring us. What do you have to say for yourself? What do you have to say for yourself? Uh, muted, we ain't trying to hear it he broke his tiktok we got flagged for hate speech because I said midget, I bet oh yeah, that is messed up. Is that not what it's called? Is it not called wrestling?
Speaker 1:Little People.
Speaker 3:Little People Wrestling.
Speaker 1:Micro Wrestling, micro Wrestling. Okay, it's whatever.
Speaker 3:Okay, sorry I didn't name it. Well, moving the goalpost. I mean, we don't know where the goalpost is at at this point, but that's what it used to be called.
Speaker 1:That's the first time I've ever been flagged for anything. I'm pretty excited.
Speaker 3:See thing, I'm pretty excited. See, this is what I'm saying. I've got to get new friends. Like I can't be around y'all, like y'all gonna get me in trouble. You're gonna get tyler banned off of tiktok wouldn't be the first time, man lord have mercy oh, that's funny hi, I was gonna say how you gonna ban somebody from saying it when one of the co-hosts is part of that community. How are you going?
Speaker 1:to that's messed up.
Speaker 2:I'm about to say some stuff that's going to get me down, don't.
Speaker 3:Mute it.
Speaker 2:Mute it, sorry, muted muted um sorry, oh you keep you keep drinking the calories it's just got calories.
Speaker 1:It's uh tropical red bull, I feel like there's probably calories in it.
Speaker 2:You keep drinking the calories you doing good.
Speaker 3:What are you down to today? 298, 298, come on. That's what I'm talking about 20 pounds total so far that is crazy yeah just no sweets no sweets that is nuts, you'll get him some candy to celebrate and just we, we could celebrate. Yeah, no, you want to resist? No, no good that's messed up.
Speaker 1:We didn't mean that I'm getting better at resisting that stuff. I know a lot, know it's getting a lot easier.
Speaker 3:You're killing it man. It's awesome. I need to get better.
Speaker 1:Yeah, how's that insanity working? Oh wait, you didn't start that. Yeah, it's not.
Speaker 3:It's not, it's not working at all. You man can't say nothing. That's so funny.
Speaker 1:But yeah, yeah, just man just wanting to want to develop deeper and better relationships, and spending time with one another is definitely definitely, definitely on the uh, on the agenda make that a priority yeah, for sure yeah, for sure man.
Speaker 3:So we're going to start doing a new segment, um coming up, especially when we go, when we go live, when we when we go to video, right, we start doing a segment called taste test. So y'all send us in some ideas for us to try different things. So the first thing we're going to do is try different, not flavors, but different brands of pop tarts and see if we could tell the difference or toaster pastries or toaster pastries, yeah call them pop tarts, if they're not Kellogg's.
Speaker 3:Oh, can you not Is that really. That's a Kellogg's thing. Why do you know that? Because, I'm a fat guy. Why?
Speaker 1:do you know that there are things that fat people know?
Speaker 2:Yeah, where the best buffets are. He just has 300-pound card revoked.
Speaker 3:That is Right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, he did. Yep, I used to have a method for eating at a chinese buffet.
Speaker 3:Would you like to share with the rest of the class?
Speaker 1:no, okay no I don't, I don't know.
Speaker 2:I have this thing. What is it? Don't worry about it. No, I don't want to say yeah, well, I would get.
Speaker 1:I would get the fried stuff out of the way first, because it's a little heavier, and then I'd go back for, like, the sushi and things like that reasoning or just like how you like, just the way, yeah that's not well.
Speaker 3:That's how I am with burgers, if I eat the fries first before I start before I even start on the burger do you do that with everything?
Speaker 1:do you eat like? Like, when you eat a meal, do you sit down, eat a thing at a time?
Speaker 3:it depends. It depends on what what it is depends on what vegetable I don't really have, not very too many, that's about us, but where that goes, broccoli potato that's not really a vegetable.
Speaker 1:what is that that's? That's a Starch.
Speaker 3:No, starch is in it. It's a carb Carbs are in it.
Speaker 1:Potato might be a vegetable. I think potatoes are vegetables. It's a vegetable.
Speaker 3:And then there's like roots, right. So like beets aren't vegetables, they're roots.
Speaker 1:Root vegetables is what they're called.
Speaker 3:Yeah. Anyway, we would ask it. Ask a good conversation though, but tyler's tiktok list yeah, but richard over here gosh over here hate speech and I have to research.
Speaker 1:Exactly what got you kicked off?
Speaker 2:because I'm very curious to know oh my gosh, your hate speech, will they?
Speaker 3:tell you exactly what it was yeah, they should, yeah, they should let you know Maybe.
Speaker 1:Next episode. I can't.
Speaker 3:I got to get new friends.
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