Almost Brothers Podcast
Whats up whats up whats up.. welcome to your new favorite podcast. Join your hosts Michael, Richard, and Tyler as we discuss God, church, life, and the journey through this crazy world. Get away from the stresses of life with this podcast. We will be hitting on various topics from sports, to life with Christ.
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Almost Brothers Podcast
Life's Challenges and the Humor in Aging
Reflecting on a childhood marked by resilience and street smarts, we explore the profound insights that emerge from life's toughest lessons. Join us as we share how navigating through challenging environments not only builds self-reliance but also fosters a wisdom that formal education often misses. We emphasize the value of embracing life’s hurdles with an open mind and a positive outlook, reminding ourselves that wisdom is a journey without a final destination. Rather than seeing ourselves as victims, it's about celebrating the never-ending quest for growth and understanding, fueled by dedication and resilience.
As we age, we find humor in the simple truths of growing older, from the fatigue of late-night gaming sessions to noticing the first gray hairs. Our priorities have shifted, and we discuss how these changes have molded our hobbies and lifestyle choices. We share the joys of planning personal time amidst busy work schedules, upcoming family trips, and concerts, all while appreciating the small milestones, like our son's impending 12th birthday. With a focus on balancing work, family, and personal interests, we delve into the importance of maintaining social connections and cherishing moments with loved ones, inviting you to listen to a heartfelt episode filled with relatable anecdotes and genuine warmth.
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Speaker 2:I can't wait till you get your own room, where this can go in.
Speaker 1:You're probably right. Well, yeah, you think I can't wait for that. Finally, be video. Yeah, we've been working on for a while.
Speaker 2:Right Same, it's a prayer.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, it's a prayer. Yeah, I'd say so. What's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up. Everybody, welcome back to a brand new episode of the Almost Brothers podcast with my wife.
Speaker 2:Yellow.
Speaker 1:No Almost Brothers today, just me and you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, the better one.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, the better host there you go. Okay, my favorite host, if that makes a difference.
Speaker 2:You have to say that.
Speaker 1:I don't have to say that at all.
Speaker 2:I mean, I could not say that.
Speaker 1:And on today's episode we're going to be talking about wisdom, how to gain it, how to keep it, how to receive it and how it just never stops, or shouldn't never stop.
Speaker 2:Correct.
Speaker 1:Well, go ahead, babe, open up, share some wisdom.
Speaker 2:You know, I forget sometimes how old I am. That's not good wisdom.
Speaker 1:What? No, I think, talking about wisdom. I think wisdom comes a lot from, from you know. Of course you could learn it. There's a lot of things that you could learn and grow and read um, you know, because leaders are readers, which is a cool saying, because it rhymes um. But I think a lot of wisdom comes from experience yes like things that you go through.
Speaker 1:you know, sometimes we wonder why, why we go through certain things and and really a lot of times, it's to gain wisdom. You know you gain wisdom from going through those hardships and the tough times and even the good times, but you earn a lot of wisdom going through those things.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I think growing up in kind of like a situation I grew up in it made me grow up faster.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So I gained a lot of street smart really early on.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because you said you were doing clothes. At what age?
Speaker 2:Like eight.
Speaker 1:Right, and most people don't have that type of how to work a washer dryer. Yeah.
Speaker 2:You know how to get your clothes ready for school. We it was like we were on our own right with parents in the house, but we were really on our own, like how to start a bath? How to you know wash?
Speaker 1:how to you know they only had a what, how to wash, wash wash, okay, oh my goodness, okay, sorry the country accent yeah, it's pretty thick, uh, but yeah, you, yeah, and you learn the things that that people either, I won't say never learn, but it takes them later on in life to learn. So, by the time they're learning, these things you've already are are rooted in how to get those things done, how to take it Well, even just making sure you, you know, have something to eat on days where your parents don't make anything.
Speaker 1:And then you kind of have to fend for yourself.
Speaker 2:A lot of processed food.
Speaker 1:Right, well, yeah, but but you know, you, you earn wisdom in that and even now you're able to use that for our kids. You've, because you've had, you've learned that you know. So that that's something. Yeah, that's something that making a bad situation, learning something from that bad situation, you know, um, I know we always say it in like the sports context, but you learn a lot more from a loss than a win. You learn what not to do, how, what not to do, how to change things, what you can work on. So I think a lot of the situations we're put in, if we take the time we could pull good things out of a bad situation.
Speaker 1:Have you ever been in those situations where you just see I?
Speaker 2:can't learn anything from this. Sometimes, I think that, but I think the only reason why I think that is because my brain gets lazy.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:And I say I cannot learn this when I know I can Right. If I just put in the effort.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and that's what I was going to get to is I don't think there's any situation we get put in that you can't learn something from.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:And I think that's exactly on point is we get lazy and we don't want to see the good and that bad thing. We don't want to think, man, I was able to learn something out of that. Because we either it hurts too much or we do. We get lazy and we just want to say oh it it's, and we play kind of play the victim, you know, instead of instead of saying, no, there was things I could take out of this and learn and grow from.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because I was reading something the other day and it said you know, you have to fall. Whatever it is you're learning, whatever it is that you're striving for, you have to fall in love with the process. And that is something that we just do not want to do. We don't want to go through the process of anything, because you know the way that the generation is now. We just want it right now.
Speaker 2:We want it right then yeah and we don't want to go through the process. It's just us being either lazy, or we already look at ourselves as failures, or we know we're gonna fail, or we say I can't, and so you, you really have to. Just no matter what it is, even if you fail, you have to fall in love with the process and then pick yourself back up.
Speaker 1:That's so good. I can't remember who it was, but he was talking about that. He said I am the what did he say? Or how did he put it. He said I am the longest overnight success. Yes, Because he said it took me 30 years to become an overnight success. Because that's how people think. They think things just happen and so-and-so has 5 million followers on YouTube or whatever, and they think it happened overnight, when it took years to get to that point. Or they see a great musician or a great speaker and they think that it just happened overnight and it's like you don't understand the process that it took to get to that point. You know, he said people think because now they know me that I'm an overnight success. It took me 30 years to get here. Right, you know 30 years of things that you haven't seen. You know and that and that. That is that's gathering a lot of wisdom over a lot of years to be able to get to the point where they're at now. You know I like to think of um.
Speaker 2:You know I like to think of joseph in the bible. You know, he had to go literally into the pit yeah and then he was positioned, all these you know places that he went through, all this hardship he went through to actually get to the palace yeah so he was getting in position every time and he could have thought, you know, he could have quit in between yeah, or he could have just gave up years of of going through that process, yeah and so he just, time and time again, kept getting up you know not complaining, you know just going through the process so he can be positioned, and I just always think of that, yeah, and that's good, and that you know just going through the process so he can be positioned, and I just always think of that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and that's good, and that you know learning how to go through that and still come out trusting in God you know, trusting in his process and his timing and his will, you know, and and that that does.
Speaker 1:That takes a huge level of learning how to take the good out of the bad and and develop wisdom, because wisdom isn't something that just comes it. It it's something, it's a learned thing, right? We're not just like, oh, I'm super wise, it's something you have to learn and you have to look for those things that you could take and build on and and, like you said, I think in the culture now, we like to, we like to cry and whine and and give every excuse for why, why, why, instead of oh, I can grow from this.
Speaker 2:Right, and even now I think back to to me. You know being 38,.
Speaker 1:I think. I'm at 29. Yeah, right, right, right, yeah, okay, I think you know I'm at 29. Yeah, right, right, right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay, I think you know we're still like this. You know it's not that we're oh okay. Well, we got it all together. We know what we're doing.
Speaker 2:No, like, there are days where I know I should get up and at least put in the effort to maybe exercise or maybe eat better or maybe read my Bible more, and there are some days where I'm just like I do not want to do this, I'm exhausted, like, and I know I can better serve myself if I do this every day. But you know, it's just a. I'm just not there yet every day and I don't think we ever will be. But you know, I know better and we can get better.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and every one of us have a certain area in our life where it's like I really need to get better here. Yeah, that's what me and Richard talked about a couple weeks ago. We were talking about like I can do good at my diet when it comes to food, but then I get lazy when it comes to exercise. I'm like I need to really focus more on exercising. I'm actually getting up, I want to be active, I want to be able to play with my grandkids. When that happens, you know, I don't want to just be torn apart. I know I've got back problems, I've got this, but I wonder how much my lack of exercise has contributed to that. So it's like, man, I've got areas in my life I need to apply some wisdom to also and get better at.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I have to. And I don't want to just think, oh my gosh, like she knows it all, or she's just so full of wisdom. It's like, no, I'm still learning. I'm still, you know, taking apart. You know, when I study a story in the Bible or I have questions about, I'm still taking this apart, I'm still diving in, even though I've heard the story a million times, because we can get to that point where I've heard it. Oh, I've heard it a billion times.
Speaker 1:And I think that's, that's the exact opposite of having, that's lack of wisdom thinking that you've got it all together and you know, you know, I think the most wise people you can talk to are usually the ones going. Yeah, I don't really know as much as you would think.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And really understand that they need to be in a room where they're constantly learning and growing and being pushed and stretched, you know? That's why they say you know, if you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room. Right, you need to be with people that are going to pull you and stretch you and teach you. There's nothing better than being with someone that tells you something you had no idea. It's like, oh wow, I didn't know that and you learn something. So now you leave the day, you leave the conversation, knowing something that you didn't know, going into it. There's nothing better than that, because that means you're constantly learning.
Speaker 1:I feel like a lot of people, especially in ministry and in church circles, they, they think they get to a point to where, no, I got it, I got it, I got it. And it's like I don't want to be around those people. I want to be around the people that are constantly questioning, constantly wanting to learn, learn more, constantly wanting to further themselves and learn from people. And that's what's so cool about just talking with people and being like hey, what's your story?
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:Because you can teach me something that I didn't know about you or that I didn't know by by just listening to your story.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And it's like oh, okay, I feel like, man, now I could better serve you because I've learned something from you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and it's all walks of life is. Is that I want to, and that's the great thing about being in ministry is you literally run into all walks of life, no matter where you are, and you can learn and take from every single person, no matter what position you're in, no matter what title you have. Like you can learn and hear their story and cause we we all live different lives.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:And I just love hearing like, especially testimonies, like it's like my favorite.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, cause again you learn. You see what people have been through and it's like, oh my goodness, like it's awesome that you're here.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:That's good. Let's talk about your B-Day. Let's not Speaking of wisdom. Wisdom comes by the years, and you've got 38 of them under your belt. See what I did there. I did, I did, I did, I did, I did, I did, I did.
Speaker 2:I did, I did, I did I with the transition.
Speaker 1:So how does it feel?
Speaker 2:it feels not good you said.
Speaker 1:You said the other day like I feel a year older okay.
Speaker 2:So it was like we went to dinner, we went nate mexican and we went to like some stores and we stayed up a little bit later than normal right, not even crazy late, right, just sitting at the house after we ate, yeah and I literally felt like I aged 10 years yeah, we had a basketball tournament the next day yeah, and it wasn't even like oh, we stayed up till five and we had to get up at eight.
Speaker 2:We were like up till one no, I wouldn't even say that it was like maybe 12, 11 right, yeah. And then it was like I couldn't wait to get home and take a nap yeah, I felt like.
Speaker 1:It felt like death the next day. Oh my gosh, we're so tired I can't, I can't do it yeah, it's crazy like I can't stay up, like and I miss the nights of just staying up and playing video games you're crazy, I love sleep that's what I learned in my 30s oh, that's the wisdom you got
Speaker 1:yes I do too, but I remember me and cody. We stayed up one night I can't remember if it was a video game or a tv show, it was one or the other and I remember our, our alarms for work went off yes, I remember that so we like, pulled an all-nighter of just hanging out watching tv or playing video games and then went to work yeah, there's no way I could do that right now.
Speaker 2:And you're not even going to like a factory Like you're right, Like I couldn't do it.
Speaker 1:I would be just like like dying. I would just be like foaming at the mouth, Just like no way.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:So with each passing year does it get like earlier and earlier you need to go to bed.
Speaker 2:Oh, 100% Like you have me on here late right now.
Speaker 1:Oh, oh, okay. Like, what are we getting done with this? I'm ready for bed.
Speaker 2:I might fall asleep sitting here. I'm just kidding.
Speaker 1:That's not good.
Speaker 2:I'm just kidding.
Speaker 1:Well, if anything, it's just one more year I get to love you yeah and drive me crazy and drive you crazy. Yeah, and one more gray hair coming in don't say that what I'm I'm sorry did I thought we were in the circle of trust. What happened?
Speaker 2:yeah, the gray hair in your beard, darn darn, did he turn turn? Why is that still on here?
Speaker 1:take it off why you gotta talk about the gray in my beard. I mean, that's a low, that's a low blow. That's listeners. Do you? Do you hear this abuse that I'm having to take right now? It's okay.
Speaker 2:You can dye it.
Speaker 1:I'm not dyeing my beard, I'm just letting it happen.
Speaker 2:And for everyone. I actually don't mind it. I love the gray coming in.
Speaker 1:And my beard, yeah you're my old man. Don't do that.
Speaker 2:You're six months older than me. Don't do that. So you're about to turn 39.
Speaker 1:Let's hear it that's six months from now. We don't need to talk about that it's coming up it's not coming up. We're talking about your birthday.
Speaker 1:That just passed, not what I've got going on it was full of basketball games uh yeah, and I've already got the kids calling me old anyway, so I don't need your help. You be quiet, so I don't need that. So switching into the next segment is that's what's up. So this is where we talk about what we're watching, what we're listening to a TV show, a movie, something you're looking forward to, a video game on something from this week, or something that you'd like to watch or listen to.
Speaker 2:Do I have to participate in that?
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:Um, I really need to get a hobby.
Speaker 1:You really do, you really, yeah, work.
Speaker 2:Church. You did say that the other day.
Speaker 1:I need a hobby.
Speaker 2:That's about it. I mean, what's the last movie we watched?
Speaker 1:Oh, we watched that one horrible movie, Juror no 2.
Speaker 2:Okay, yeah, that was pretty bad. That was bad.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that was pretty bad. What did we watch with Tyler and Liv the other night?
Speaker 2:Oh like.
Speaker 1:Speak no Evil. It wasn't terrible. It wasn't terrible, it was a good kind of psychological thriller. It was pretty good.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's a good one. I love the movies. That kind of work my brain yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like the who Did it.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I love the detective.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:The scruffy detective trying to figure out who did it that those are good yeah, yeah I'm looking forward to hopefully owning a ps5 sometime in the near future.
Speaker 1:And don't breathe hard. It's at your age, you shouldn't be stressed out, so breathe a little bit. No, but I'm really going to try my best. You know, this was one of our challenges that we did me, tyler and Richard. Oh yeah, yeah, I'm really going to start trying to take my Mondays to kind of unplug and hang out and do you know things that I love doing? Yeah, so video games is one of that, one of those things I can kind of shut my brains off and my brains, my brain off and and just kind of hang out.
Speaker 2:So there's a few games YouTube off. That's so true. Yeah, that's your resting time.
Speaker 1:You put on.
Speaker 2:YouTube and you put on like a news channel.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, that's true, but hopefully do that and play some. Play some good games, catch up on some games I've been wanting to play for a while does overcooked count?
Speaker 1:no, overcooked and dr mario, that doesn't count, I know that, but those aren't. That's not how I've got to focus on dr mario. I can't let you beat me, okay, so my brain doesn't shut off for that. I've gotta I've gotta focus. But I know that this weekend we look forward to that we're gonna be in branson. That's gonna be really fun, yeah, so we look forward to that. And and we're gonna play some video games with the family. We got some games that we play all together, so that's gonna be fun.
Speaker 1:I'm really really looking forward to that, like more than usual yeah, it's gonna be a good time to see, alia, that's gonna be great, yeah, and just spending some, some good time sitting by a fireplace drinking coffee yeah come on. So what would you like to see in this this year? 38 years moving into 39, one step closer to 40? I know we kind of talked about this on what we'd like out of the year. But just you personally, it doesn't have to be anything with me or the family. You personally, what do you want to see this year?
Speaker 2:More trips Duh.
Speaker 1:Oh, we know that we talked about that, Duh. Yeah.
Speaker 2:No, I would like to take more time away. I do tend to work a lot and even though, just like any other job, you get vacation, but actually taking it to enjoy, because I think the last year I just spent so much time focused on, you know, moving and maybe a little bit around Christmas time just to shop, but I never really actually got to take like a full week.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you would take days off and we'd kind of be just around. You'd take the day off to just get to hang out around the house, you know, instead of doing something. Yeah, that's a good one. Yeah, so vacation, um, yeah, I know we've got a few things that you know, especially early on in the year, that we're going to be doing.
Speaker 1:We're going to branson, we're going to tyler hilton concert yeah, um, I got a lot of things to look forward to, yeah I've got a few few places I'll be speaking at, so the next month and a half is going to be, you know, kind of go, go, go. So it's going to be good yeah, and I always love.
Speaker 2:Uh, I've realized these past 38 years that there was a time, of course, where I loved staying home and loving a whole body, but I love like just getting out. Yeah, because going from like being in an office and working and then working from home, you don't get that interaction with people yeah and like that's what I loved like and see, and and what's crazy?
Speaker 1:now, especially with me being in the ministry it's the exact opposite, like I'm ready to come home because I've been out just around people all day.
Speaker 2:It's time for me to get home and lock the door and stay in my bubble and I'm like I just want to go home.
Speaker 1:I haven't been, so that that's a hard balance too, which we'll talk about. That that'd be a good episode is balancing each other out when our jobs are very polar opposite. You're here by yourself in the office and I'm out with people all day, yeah. So then your time off, you want to be out with people and my time off I want to be at home, you know.
Speaker 2:So that's a hard balance of figuring out how we want to do this and and yeah, that's good yeah, because I when I was in the office and I had you tons of friends and I was training people and and I just loved that interaction story and I would get to witness to people and you know, let them hear my story and hear and it just I, you don't know, it's awesome until it's gone.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And then you're sitting there in an office by yourself, a house alone.
Speaker 1:It's like I miss people.
Speaker 2:And I'll message them. I'll be like I miss you and they probably think I'm weird.
Speaker 1:That's funny.
Speaker 2:And I'm sure they probably don't even listen to this, but I do. I'll message them. I'll be like I just miss you Big Kurt listens. Yeah, but she's not in the office.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, that's true.
Speaker 2:I forgot about that, yeah I still message her and say I miss you.
Speaker 1:Yeah yeah, that's so true. Yeah, well, and even you know we're closer to home, but we're still, we're not down the street right you know.
Speaker 1:So even even seeing those people is a is a little bit of a joy. I mean, even going to see mom. It's like we have to plan that night out. Yeah, because it's like, okay, we get off work and then we drive down and then we have to get back so we only have very much time. Man, I know I've been able to spend a lot of time with dad. That's been, that's been amazing, you know, getting to sit with him and micah and and really get to just have good quality time, and we've about every other week we've got to sit together and have dinner. It's been amazing.
Speaker 2:Being closer to family right.
Speaker 1:Right, but sometimes it is. It's a little bit cumbersome to be able to go and see people you know, so you kind of have to plan those things out, especially right now with the kids and school and basketball and all that.
Speaker 2:But yeah, that's definitely it's a busy life, but I know that eventually, you know we won't have this anymore.
Speaker 1:Right now.
Speaker 2:So I enjoy it.
Speaker 1:I'm going to see Hunter's baby tomorrow, nice, while I'm out to see Hunter's baby tomorrow nice while I'm out. Yep, talk to him tonight. I'm about to come by and see my nephew. Yeah, he's a chunker yeah so I look forward to that. Speaking of getting out and seeing people, gotta do it yes, how'd you think today went? How do you think service went?
Speaker 2:it went amazing. That was awesome.
Speaker 1:You're awesome oh, thank you. What? Yes, how'd you think today went? How do you think service went? It went amazing, that was awesome, you're awesome. Oh, thank you. What I wasn't ready for that Like what, thank you.
Speaker 2:Thank you. Well, you're awesome and it's been. Do I not say that enough? I threw you off.
Speaker 1:I wasn't ready for it.
Speaker 2:That's for sure, babe, you're awesome. Oh, thank you. Thank you, I'll tell you more okay, it's fine, you could.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's thank you. You're awesome and the 38 years do you justice you.
Speaker 2:You look great really I love you absolutely you don't think I have more wrinkles I love every wrinkle that you do oh, so I have them.
Speaker 1:You just love I'm not saying that you do have wrinkles. I'm saying. I'm saying if you think that you have wrinkles, I love them, whatever you think. I'm scared right now to answer. The question is what I'm saying I'm just kidding okay, I'm in danger that that meme. So now we've got you, we're about to have a 12-year-old son.
Speaker 2:Yes, how does that make you feel? That breaks my heart.
Speaker 1:Breaks your heart.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Or like makes your heart happy.
Speaker 2:No, it breaks my heart.
Speaker 1:Oh gosh.
Speaker 2:Because I want him to be two again. Yeah, he's With the chubby cheeks. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Dad do, yeah, dad do yeah dad, do you see me dance?
Speaker 2:oh, no more of that, I know that hurts now, he's as tall as you are I know, yeah, and he keeps switching rooms. Every time I go into one, I'm going in the other room.
Speaker 1:I'm like all right, I'm out, I'm gonna head in here I'm.
Speaker 2:I walk in the other room where he's in. He's like I'll go in the other room. I'm like what?
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, that's funny.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Well, I love you. You got anything else on your heart or mind, mind or heart?
Speaker 2:Nope.
Speaker 1:Well, happy birthday.
Speaker 2:Thanks, babe, it's over now.
Speaker 1:My birthday. Thanks, babe, it's over now my birthday's over.
Speaker 2:You said you get a birthday month. Don't change it now, but I feel like I age. Every time someone tells me happy birthday, I'm like oh gosh.
Speaker 1:Oh, it is, isn't it? That's what. That's what happens when you're 38. Hey, listeners, we just want to thank you for your continued support for the Almost Brothers podcast.
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